Etiquette for writing guest names

     Invitation etiquette calls for FULL names, including titles and middle names.


    Right: Mr. and  Mrs. Basheer Amir Khan


    Wrong: Mr. and Mrs. Shabana Khan




    For formal invitations, you should always use full names.


     “Mr.” And “Mrs.” are two of the abbreviations that are acceptable


    . In fact, spelling out “Mister” isn’t more correct—it’s considered incorrect.


      Always spell out “and”; don’t use the ampersand (“&”).


    Always spell out “Doctor,” “Reverend,” “Colonel,” “Lieutenant,” etc.


    one can even write in formally :


    Shabana and Basheer Khan


    Here’s how a typical Guest names should look on your invitation envelope


    Mr. and Mrs. Basheer Amir Khan


    How do you indicate the inclusion of children on your Invitation envelope?


    Mr. and Mrs. Basheer Amir  Khan

    Shagufta, Riyaz and Salman


    Children’s names should be presented on one line, separated by commas,

    in birth order (oldest to youngest).

     For two children, no commas—just separated by “and.”

     No full names here!


     Not only is it not necessary to

    include the middle and last names of children on the envelopes, it is

    considered incorrect.


     A WORD ABOUT: “Ms.” vs. “Miss” The title “Ms.” is proper

    for any woman over the age of 21. You don’t want to refer to a successful

    35-year-old unmarried female architect as “Miss Shaheen Khan”

    she is definitely a “Ms.” “Ms.” is no longer considered suitable

    only for the business world; this title is used socially as well.


    When Husband and wife both are doctors


    List them on separate lines, woman first—as follows:


    Doctor Shabana Basheer Khan

    Doctor Basheer Amir Khan


    What about when she’s a doctor and he’s not (same last name)?


    List them on separate lines, woman first—as follows :


    Doctor Shabana Basheer Khan

    Mr. Basheer Amir Khan


    What about a widow?


    A widow’s invitation should be addressed to “Mrs. Arshad Rashid Ahmed,”

    not “Mrs Irshad Arshad Ahmed.” Here’s why: “Mrs.” refers to the

    “Mistress/Wife of” a male. The title “Mrs.” should always come in front of

    a man’s name. A woman cannot be her own wife (as in Mistress/Wife of

    Ishrat—that makes no sense); she is the Mistress/Wife of Arshad, a title she

    keeps forever, unless she remarries.


    Keep in mind that a younger widow’s invitation may be addressed to

     “Ms.Ishrat Arshad Ahmed,”


     but an invitation sent to your 90yearold widowed great aunt should probably read “ Mrs Arshad Rashid Ahmed.”


    When should the term “and family” be used?

    Hmmm…how about never? The term “and family” sounds very impersonal

    and typically is not used on traditional wedding invitations. Using

    the term may make some recipients think that you don’t care enough to

    find out their children’s names

    The only time that “and family” would be considered acceptable is when

    we find certain family has

    many children and squeezing their names on one line on the envelope

    would be impossible. Putting the children’s names on two lines

    would make for a very long address.

    Again, aesthetics will dictate your

    decision here.

    Finally, if you’ve exhausted all resources and can’t find out some of the

    children’s names, then you’ll have no choice but to use “and family.”

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